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Does Sober February have to end?

Sober Steve seeks advice on his heavy-drinking friends

Dear Hipster:

A handful of my friends are in the middle of Sober February, and I couldn’t be happier! Since I don’t drink anymore, I often feel awkward going out. Most of my friends are moderately heavy drinkers, and they almost always have a few rounds and get tipsy while I’m sitting there sober. It’s not that I miss drinking, but I still feel left out. After February is over, I want to tell my friends how cool it was to have everyone sober, and maybe they’ll agree to sober nights out with me in the future. Of course, I realize that’s a huge ask, but what are friends for, right? Would I be out of line to request this?

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— Sober Steve

Should your friends give you grief over your sobriety, reconsider your friendships. If that’s the case, they’re probably moments from offering you backstage passes to a Kings of Leon show and asking you to DD all the way to L.A. for the concert so that they can sing a six-part disharmony of “Sex on Fire” the whole way.

/shudders

However, since the tone of your letter suggests that the only objections here are yours, perhaps you have some soul searching to do over why exactly you balk at your friends’ social lubrications.

(The Social Lubrications is a killer band name, BTW.)

You probably have great reasons for this drinking discomfiture, but asking your friends to make major adjustments to their shared hangouts is not fair. Come to grips with whatever it is that makes “booze” a four-letter-word in your eyes, accept that it’s perfectly okay for others to drink while you do not, and order the Shirley Temple I know you’re just dying for.

Place

Office

3936 30th Street, San Diego

Place

Coin-Op Game Room

3926 30th Street, San Diego

You can put it out there that you’d appreciate meeting up at places that offer something to the nondrinkers and designated drivers of the world. If it comes down to, say, the Office vs. Coin-Op for happy hour, maybe you guys can agree to go to the place with the pinball machines and save the drinks-only spots for another day.

Happy Sobruary to all you temporary teetotallers out there! Sucks to be you, but I admire your commitment.

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Dear Hipster:

A handful of my friends are in the middle of Sober February, and I couldn’t be happier! Since I don’t drink anymore, I often feel awkward going out. Most of my friends are moderately heavy drinkers, and they almost always have a few rounds and get tipsy while I’m sitting there sober. It’s not that I miss drinking, but I still feel left out. After February is over, I want to tell my friends how cool it was to have everyone sober, and maybe they’ll agree to sober nights out with me in the future. Of course, I realize that’s a huge ask, but what are friends for, right? Would I be out of line to request this?

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— Sober Steve

Should your friends give you grief over your sobriety, reconsider your friendships. If that’s the case, they’re probably moments from offering you backstage passes to a Kings of Leon show and asking you to DD all the way to L.A. for the concert so that they can sing a six-part disharmony of “Sex on Fire” the whole way.

/shudders

However, since the tone of your letter suggests that the only objections here are yours, perhaps you have some soul searching to do over why exactly you balk at your friends’ social lubrications.

(The Social Lubrications is a killer band name, BTW.)

You probably have great reasons for this drinking discomfiture, but asking your friends to make major adjustments to their shared hangouts is not fair. Come to grips with whatever it is that makes “booze” a four-letter-word in your eyes, accept that it’s perfectly okay for others to drink while you do not, and order the Shirley Temple I know you’re just dying for.

Place

Office

3936 30th Street, San Diego

Place

Coin-Op Game Room

3926 30th Street, San Diego

You can put it out there that you’d appreciate meeting up at places that offer something to the nondrinkers and designated drivers of the world. If it comes down to, say, the Office vs. Coin-Op for happy hour, maybe you guys can agree to go to the place with the pinball machines and save the drinks-only spots for another day.

Happy Sobruary to all you temporary teetotallers out there! Sucks to be you, but I admire your commitment.

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