Receiving Bella

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The real menace in dealing with a five-year-old is that in no time at all you begin to sound like a five-year-old. —Joan Kerr

Bella approached the refrigerator with cautious curiosity. “Are you thirsty, honey?” I asked. The little blond head at my hip nodded. I opened the fridge, and Bella scanned the shelves for something familiar.

“Do you have any juice?” she asked.

“No,” I said, thinking, At least not any that hasn’t been fermented. On the top shelf were two cans of Guinness (leftover ingredients from David’s “Guinness Punch,” a Jamaican drink he’d made for St. Patrick’s Day — Guinness, sweetened condensed milk, and cinnamon), a bottle of rosé frizzante, and… I perked up when I noticed the red-and-white carton of milk. I looked to my charge. “Here’s the deal — I can offer you water or milk.” Bella opted for water. I asked, “Chilled or room temperature?”

“What’s room temperature?”

I opened my mouth, but, realizing I didn’t have a ready answer, let it fall slack for a moment. “It’s, like, well, you know how it feels in the room right now? That’s room temperature. You can have water that feels like the room or cold water from the fridge.” I cringed at my ineloquence, but Bella didn’t seem to notice. When I finished blabbering on about the spectrum from warm to cold, she selected room temperature, probably because she liked the way the words sounded.

I chose a DVD from a box set of Looney Tunes and popped it into the player. “You sit right here, Bella. I’m just going to check on something real quick.” While Bella giggled at Daffy Duck’s beak being blown off by Elmer Fudd’s shotgun, I fetched my laptop from the other room.

On the few occasions I’d watched my niece in the past, it had been at my sister’s place — where Bella’s toys, costumes, and books live, a home in which the possibilities for play are endless. Having the child at my place was as awkward as Bill O’Reilly at a gay-pride festival. A few minutes before my mother deposited Bella in my living room, I’d hopped onto Twitter and asked for suggestions for how to entertain a five-year-old. Now, after ten minutes of showing her the terrace, allowing her to run up and down the stairs, and pointing out the hundred or so things she could not touch, I needed those responses. Reading the first reply, my brows furrowed: “Candy Land. Ponies. Sticker books.” Not here. The second one seemed more plausible: “Dress up.” But Bella had not been interested in my feathers. One tip — printing coloring pages from the web — sounded perfect until I remembered I didn’t have any crayons.

I was just about to break out my makeup collection when Bella, already tired of Bugs Bunny’s shenanigans, skipped over to the counter and picked up my iPhone. “Can I take pictures, Aunt Bob?”

“Sure, honey. You know how? Oh, wait, never mind, that’s right, Uncle David showed you.” I turned on the phone, pressed the camera icon, and handed it over. “Just give it right back to me if it rings, okay? Mommy might try to call.” I could have kicked myself for that last sentence.

Bella’s entire demeanor changed. Her shoulders slumped forward, and her little blond brows came together. Finally, she looked up at me. “Olivia had to go to the hospital. What’s wrong with her?”

“Olivia’s fine, sweetie,” I said. “It’s just that, well…” I wasn’t about to explain “febrile seizure” to a five-year-old when I barely understood it myself. Comprehension may not have been attainable, but comfort was. “Some babies, when they get fevers, react differently than other babies. The same thing happened to Aunt Jenny when she was your sister’s age, and Aunt Jenny is just fine now. Olivia will be too.”

Bella nodded and set off on a photo-taking expedition. As the artist captured every nook of my condo, I considered how horrific it must have been for Jane when her feverish two-year-old had a seizure in her arms. I imagined the distress on my sister’s face when Bella refused to get in the ambulance, the agony over having to make a snap decision between forcing Bella to come along or leaving her with one of the handful of neighbors who, upon hearing the sirens, had rushed over to see what was going on.

My father was 31 when his baby girl (my sister Jenny) had a seizure in his arms. At the time, we lived on a tiny island 1200 miles out in the Aleutians, off the coast of Alaska. My mom, who was 28, had to choose with whom to leave three daughters while she and my dad accompanied their two-year-old to the mainland. Jenny had slipped into a coma and would not come out of it for two weeks. While all this was going on, my biggest stress was being forced to eat peas and drink milk, resenting my parents for leaving me with “monsters” who insisted on a balanced diet. Now, as an adult, my heart goes out to the young parents who had to leave most of their children behind in order to save their youngest.

I was relieved that my niece’s condition was less critical than my sister’s ailment had been (encephalitis, or swelling of the brain, as the result of a mosquito bite). From the ambulance, Jane had called Mom, who called me, after which I’d called Simon, who left work to join his wife and daughter at the hospital. Mom was on her way to a meeting and had just enough time to collect Bella from the neighbor and bring her to me. I’d have gotten her myself, but David had the car.

Bella returned to my side and handed me the phone. “Are you hungry, hon?” She nodded. Again, I opened the fridge, and she stood beside me. Hummus, jam, eggs, canned tuna, yogurt, jars of condiments, and something in a plastic bag. I picked up the bag. “Have you ever had Hungarian sausage?” Bella shook her head. “Well, you’re in for a treat!” I laid out four crackers and cut four slices of the skinny sausage. Bella took a seat, and I placed the food on a napkin before her. “And as dessert, you can have this very special dark chocolate that you get to unwrap yourself.”

Bella daintily laid a slice of sausage on a cracker, took a bite, then sat back in her chair and looked around the room. Nothing, I would think, to hold the attention of a child — sharp edges and hardwood, things hanging on walls that you’re not allowed to touch. Finally, Bella’s eyes came to rest on my face. “I like coming here,” she said.

“That makes me happy, Bella Boo.” I realized, once the words were out of my mouth, what a gross understatement it was. Truth was, I couldn’t remember a time I’d felt so relieved.

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I hope Olivia is doing ok now. It's always so scary when little ones have a medical emergency.

Oh, and I love Olivia's and Bella's bouncing blonde curls. They're both so cute!

Thank you, snackycakes, yes, she's much better now. Poor thing. She won't remember this, but it was terrifying for my sister. I can't imagine how scary that would be, and I don't like trying to. You should see my nephews, they both have the hugest pair of blue eyes I've ever seen. My sisters make some pretty babies. ;)

I hope that you never again have to watch your niece because of an emergency but in the event that you find yourself with a child and no way to entertain them the answer is goop. What is goop you may ask? It is simply cornstarch and water. It seems terribly messy and kids love it. However, it really is not messy. Cornstarch is an inert substance that does not harm anything. When it dries, you can simply vacuum it up. In a bowl, mix about 1/2 cup of cornstarch with approximately 2 cups water so that it feels like clay - not too powdery, not too wet. Now pick up this goop and squeeze it - it's crumbly. Hold it loosely - it oozes through your fingers. Knock on the mixture (inside the bowl) and you will find it feels hard. Put your finger slowly into it and...it is liquid. Its solid one minute, liquid the next. Magic! It has become non-Newtonian fluid, In other words a liquid that does not behave like a typical liquid. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Non-Newtonian_fluid Ketchup is another non-Newtonian fluid. That is why when you shake the bottle it comes out all at once. Stick the child outside or in the shower or bathtub with a plastic bowl, add water and let them stir and play with this mixture to their hearts content. Remember it will dry and be easily swept/vacuumed up or rinsed down the drain. I guarantee you will have at least and hour of peace.

Wow, Denise, what a great idea! I can even do that at their home, when they tire of toys. Thank you for the fabulous tip!

So sorry to read about your niece; so glad to read she is doing better and I assume will be okay. Nothing worse than an ill child you can't help, especially when that child is your own or one you love. As for principessa Bella (let her know she looks like a princess :), I have found that children mostly just like to be with us...especially bright inquisitive children. They like to do what we do with us, when appropriate. For example one thing I used to do years ago when I babysat, was dance with the kids in the kitchen. Socks on, some good boogy music, all the kids all at once.

Hopefully the floor is smooth enough so a little sliding can occur, along with twisting ala Chubby Checker. Each kid gets a turn holding your hands and twisting together...down to the floor or as far as the will allows and back up again. Spin them, teach them "the swim" or "the robot" jazz hands...whatever. They will giggle the entire time until they are red in the face. And then, when dance time is over...they will be compliant and sleepy. Just in time for a story, or a tour of cool kid stuff on the internet, or will willingly curl up next to you on the couch and lean on your shoulder while you check your email and work. (Pillow fights have the same effect but can be hazardous to hair styles and furniture...not to mention pillows).

The only caveat: children hold fond memories of fun with their Aunt (or cool babysitter) in perpetuity. So be prepared to be asked for a dance until they are about your height. They will, however, still talk about it and you with a smile. And kudos to the poster with the cornstarch recipe. Great idea!

Hope all is well for you and your family (with a special thought for your Dad, too). Lisa a/k/a "lallaw"

That's a great idea also, Lisa, because I have a generous chunk of hardwood floors that I love to slip and slide on in my socks. Thank you!

Sounds like a video in the making, B. :) People might even pay money to see that!

I recommend matches. Kids love playing with those.

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